What is the two main factor of building a good foundation of an effective relationship? 1 Corinthians 1:10 gives the answer. " I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement"
That's two people whose hearts beat together, their minds work together, their plans are the same, and so do their objectives. That's cooperation, and that's how marriage should work. But in our everyday lives and the normal relationship that we are having tend to be competitive, not cooperative. One partner has an idea on how things should be done, and the other has their own idea on how it should go. Sounds familiar to you?
This condition illustrate accordingly in Isaiah 53:6 as selfishness. The actual verse stated "All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way"
We can't build an effective relationship until you come to grips with this tendency of selfishness. It often happens whenever a decisions has to be made between you and your partner. We don't even have to work on it. It just happens literally.
When we try to taking it over, thinking that there is just needs to be more understanding, probably won't work things out. It can solidify your partner's viewpoint, because the more you understand their viewpoint, the less you appreciate it. Maybe you have tried to talk about it to your friends which probably won't work either, for the same reason that just you and your partner talking it over didn't work.
To get the right decision, and none work, you have to face the fact that you've hit a stalemate. You also have to face the fact that somebody has to have the last word and be the leader, or the problem won't be solve. That's a tough conclusion to make, because even though you've tried ways to solve dilemma, nothing has really changed. Why? Because you each still want your own way. You are competing each other. What do you thing that introduce the competition you still find yourselves involved in? It's that selfish attitude that is still in control. Selfishness is the great hindrance to cooperation.
But you do not need to be stuck there, in that spirit of selfishness. You just need a Savior. You need to surrender your competitive nature to God and let Him give you an attitude of cooperation. Read the above mentioned verse and you shall find relief in yourself.
Everyone wanted to have their marriage works. Then make the choice to invite Christ into your life and into your relationship. Ask Him to fill you with a spirit of cooperation and choose daily to approach your marriage in a cooperative way.
Try this " Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of person you want me to be. "
Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? You know what to do next. Once we have invited Christ in our life, thank God often that He is in our life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you'll experience life to the fullest.
May God bless everyone!Amen..
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